The Problem with Mental Health

So here's the problem with mental health, depression and/ or anxiety, those that suffer from it are trying to navigate and understand their feelings and thoughts. Those around them don't necessarily understand what it is that they are going through or what it all means, let alone the people that have nothing to do with any of it. 

The point I am trying to make is that the biggest problem here is UNDERSTANDING. A lot of that comes down to communication as well, but as much as we like to pretend we are good at that, we as the human race aren't.

Whilst those that are suffering are trying to figure out how to deal with what is going on in their own heads and work out how best to explain it to their loved ones. Those around them with their judgmental thoughts and words of 'wisdom' generally do not help and make the situation worse.

Since coming clean about how I have been feeling and have been suffering, I have had endless comments from good advice to the general just pull yourself together and the past is in the past, so just forget about it. These type of comments obviously do not do any good, the thing is if it was that easy to just forget then I wouldn't be in the position I am in now, would I?

A lot of the time we put a fake smile on our faces, masks, and facades that allude everyone into thinking we are all good. That there is nothing wrong at all, when deep inside we are screaming, crying or in pain whatever it may be, but we just don't scream about it every single day. For that reason, people forget that shit is still ongoing, so they forget that we need help and support. Move on and look past us, until something drastic happens that makes them realise just how desperate we really are or it may just be too late for some sadly.

That's the cold hard truth, unless you have caused yourself harm, tried to kill yourself or successfully done so no one takes notice. No one takes it seriously, thinking it's just a bad mood or phase that will pass. That it's just someone jumping on the band-wagon to get attention, I know this may sound harsh but I have always been of the opinion that if someone wants to end it. They will just do it, they won't contact anyone to be stopped, you won't be able to change their mind. The point here is that those are the type of people to be concerned about, the ones that contemplate it in silence, that carry on as if life is normal all the time dying inside every day.

We don't think it's selfish, we don't think we are alone for no reason, we don't think we are worthless for the sake of it, remember that. There is a reason for it all, whilst we may not know the true root cause for these thoughts and feelings, having those around you not taking the time to care or understand sure does amplify those thoughts.

If you have anyone in your life that may have distanced themselves or has shown any sign of being distressed then please take the time to pop round for a cuppa, have a chat give them a call. It will make the world of difference to keep up communication and to try and understand what they are going through.

Always be kind, you never know what personal battle people are fighting.